Applications of Karpman's Drama Triangle

Applications of Karpman's Drama Triangle

PUT INTO PRACTICE

  • Do not enter the Game

Once you have identified that you are in danger of entering a psychological game and before continuing with the interaction, ask yourself the following questions, depending on the role you are likely to take in the situation.

The case of the 'Persecutor' role

  • What is the real intention of my intervention? What is my positive intention?
  • What is the 2% truth behind what I am about to say?
  • Do I have the authority/power that gives me the right to intervene?
  • Am I being judgmental, or critical?
  • Will my intervention be appreciated?
  • Will I get the recognition I expect as a result of my intervention? Objective: to get out of the belief that "they are worthless, stupid, cannot be trusted, everything that happens is their fault, they do not deserve it, they are incapable...".

Case of the "Victim" role

  • What is my positive intention?
  • What is the 2% truth behind what I am about to say?
  • Do I really need outside intervention?
  • Have I (really) already used all my knowledge and skills to solve the situation/my problem?
  • How will I ask for help without entering the triangle?
  • Can I make an explicit request?
  • Who is the appropriate person to whom I can make my request? Objective: to get out of the belief "People don't see my value, I do stupid things but it's not my fault, people don't want to trust me, everything that happens is my fault, it's unfair, nobody loves me...".

Case of the "Saviour" role

  • What is my positive intention?
  • What is the 2% truth behind what I am about to say?
  • Is there an explicit request for help from the other person?
  • Do I have the competence and the necessary means at my disposal to respond to this request? Am I legitimate?
  • Do I want to provide this service?

Objective: to get out of the belief that "If I wasn't there for them, the poor, it's not entirely their fault, I know better than they do what's good for them, I can't leave them in this situation...".

If you are faced with a person playing the role of "Victim”

Resist the temptation to do things for them or to attack them / take power over them. Instead, offer help/support to help the person learn to do things for themselves.

If you are faced with a person playing the role of "Saviour

Resist the comfort offered.

Thank the person and possibly specify what they can help you learn (so that you can do it on your own afterwards).

If you are faced with a person playing the role of "Persecutor”

Resist the defensive posture.

Instead, ask for advice or support: "What do you think should be done?