- Understand what values are.
- Know how to identify and prioritise your values.
- Use them as a resource to achieve your goals.
By Values we mean what is important to you, what gives meaning to your life. They are the fuel to achieve your goals.
Values reveal part of your identity, they reflect who you are fundamentally, what makes sense to you. Values guide your behaviour.
A person who lives in accordance with their values has a deep sense of fulfilment, because they feel aligned between what they do and what is important to them. Conversely, a person who does not live in accordance with their Values will feel unhappy.
Values are your compass. They enable you to make decisions, helping you to make choices and to check the personal ecology of each option.
Values are also a resource: the belief that one way of conducting your life is superior to another will give you energy to achieve your goals.
Values can change over time. One can have different values at 40 and at 20. That's why it's worth being clear about your values and reflecting on them from time to time.
Working on the Values will therefore allow you to ensure that the goal set is in line with who you are (personal ecology), and in this case will give you the necessary energy to achieve your goals.
Difference with Need
A need is something we have to fulfil in order to function well: the need to feel useful. Value feeds you: I feel fulfilled when I help save the planet.
Difference from envy
Envy is not essential, it gives pleasure: it gives me pleasure to help you.
PUT INTO PRACTICE
- Start by identifying your values: What are they?
- Prioritise them: Which are the most important?
- Which ones will you rely on to achieve your goals?
1. To identify your values :
- By questioning
- The hero
o What is important to you?
o If you think of a particularly positive situation you have experienced, what in that situation is essential for you?
o When you get up, what can make the day ahead a very good day? Why is this important to you?
o What are the behaviours in others that make you feel bad? What unmet value do these behaviours correspond to?
o Who is your hero, living or dead, real or imaginary, someone you admire and would like to identify with?
o What are its qualities? How are these qualities important to you? o How do they relate to your own life?
2. To prioritise your values :
- Which of these is more important?
- Which one do you use most often?
- Which one do you really feel you lack?
3. To live your values :
- Today, are you living your values? Can you find at least three concrete actions you have taken recently to live each of your values?
- Are your current goals in line with your values? Do they nourish your values? Do they feed them sufficiently?
- In the short and medium term, what are the objectives/projects that would enable you to live your most important values?